I JUST CAN'T GIVE UP NOW

THERE WILL BE MOUNTAINS THAT I WILL HAVE TO CLIMB AND THERE WILL BE BATTLES THAT I WILL HAVE TO FIGHT. BUT VICTORY OR DEFEAT, IT'S UP TO ME TO DECIDE BUT HOW CAN I EXPECT TO WIN IF I NEVER TRY. I JUST CAN'T GIVE UP NOW I'VE COME TOO FAR FROM WHERE I STARTED FROM. NOBODY TOLD ME THE ROAD WOULD BE EASY AND I DON'T BELIEVE HE BROUGHT ME THIS FAR TO LEAVE ME. 



AMEN, AMEN, AMEN, LOVE THIS SONG VERY UPLIFTING. AN, I HOPE THIS SONG UPLIFT ALL OF YOU THIS MORNING AND FROM HERE ON OUT.

ANSWERS TO THE TEST

1. FALSE
2. FALSE
3. FALSE
4. FALSE
5. FALSE
6. FALSE
7. FALSE
8. FALSE
9. FALSE
10. TRUE
11. FALSE
12. FALSE
13. TRUE
14. FALSE

• FALSE

ENCOURAGING EVERYONE TO TAKE THE TEST FIND OUT WHAT YOU KNOW

                                                         TAKE THE TEST

*A woman who is raped while she is drunk is somewhat responsible.

True

False

*Most women wouldn't admit it, but they find being forced into sex a turn-on.

True

False

*If a woman is willing to make out with a guy, then she should not be upset if he goes a little further and forces sex.

True

False

*If a victim does not fight her attacker, she deserves to be raped.

True

False

*Most women who say they have been raped are lying.

True

False

*Nobody intends to force sex, but sometimes they get carried away.

True

False

*Most people are raped by strangers.

True

False

*If someone told me they were raped, I would not believe them.

True

False

*Jealousy is part of a healthy relationship.

True

False

*Violence in dating relationships is a criminal offense.

True

False

*Rape is only a woman's issue.

True

False

*Sex workers can't be raped.

True

False

*Men can be victims of rape.

True

False

*The best way to deal with sexual assault is to ignore it.

True

False

*Immediately after a rape, a victim is usually hysterical.

True

False

                        THE ANSWER WILL BE POSTED ON    POST 17

A Known Fact

One in four girls will be sexually assaulted by age 18

One in four boys will be sexually assaulted by age 18

One in three victims of sexually assault is under the age of 12

Every 2 minutes someone, somewhere is sexually assaulted

Sexual assault leads to other abuses..... like Alcohol and Drug Abuse, Eating Disorders, Promiscuity,

Runaways, and Sex Workers.



SUNDRA(:)

SCRIPTURE FOR TODAY

"A GOOD MAN OUT OF THE GOOD TREASURE OF HIS HEART BRINGS FORTH GOOD THINGS, AND EVIL MAN OUT OF THE EVIL TREASURE BRINGS FORTH EVIL THINGS
(MATTHEW 12: 35)

TOPIC4: ACCEPTANCE

 I know you guys are going to think I'm crazy for this one. To again peace with yourself is to over come grief and to accept the wrong that was done to you. You have to accept the pain that was placed upon your soul, mind and body. You don't want it to take control of you nor consume your life. Don't be afraid because once you do that, once you become afraid that person has won all over again. You gain acceptance by forgiving that person and yes it's hard but you won't completely be healed unto you do so. This is the only way your going to be able to move forward with your life. Acceptance and forgiveness is going to help you face the person who harmed you one day along with GOD and faith. UNTIL NEXT TIME MY LOVES SIGNING OFF(:) STAY BLESSED


SUNDRA(:)

SCRITURE FOR TODAY

Ignore the Critics TODAY’S SCRIPTURE “So when Peter went up to Jerusalem, the circumcised believers criticized him.” (Acts 11:2, NIV)                             IF GOD IS FOR YOU WHO CAN BE AGAINST YOU!!!!!! STAY BLESSED MY LOVES

TOPIC 3: ANGER DEFINED

Anger is known as a disorder, but more properly known as Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) is a psychological condition characterized by sporadic episodes of aggression, violence, and destructive behavior. People who suffer from anger disorder are unable to control themselves, exploding with rage in a way which is often out of proportion to the event which triggered the anger. Like many psychological disorders, IED can be treated with help from a psychological professional, but first it needs to be identified as a problem and diagnosed. As you know some people can't afford to get help and of course most don't want to admit that they have a problem. So, how do we help them?
Three key things distinguish anger disorder from other types of mood disorders which involve anger, such as bipolar disorder. The first is the presence of major property damage or serious harm as a result of one or more explosive episodes. The second is the characteristic of responses which are out of proportion, and the third is a lack of another explanation for the behavior, such as the use of mood-altering medication or an existing mood disorder. People may also experience feelings of fatigue, confusion, or distress after their explosive episodes, often compounded by guilt over their actions.
An, well i can say everyone has this disorder to some degree. Most people seem to suppress their anger and while others they tend to act out their anger. This usually leads to someone getting hurt or objects being thrown and jail time.

HERE ARE SOME WEB-SITES TO VISIT:
thehotline.org
ncadv.org
futureswithoutviolence.org 
womensaid.org
dvcs.org 

Scripture For Today

Enter with This TODAY’S SCRIPTURE “Enter into His gates with thanksgiving, and into His courts with praise. Be thankful to Him, and bless His name.” (Psalm 100:4, NKJV)

Topic 2: SHALL I FEAR MY AGGRESSOR

I contemplated over and over in my head about my story. I'm not even going to lie guys i didn't turn the guy in who rape me the first i was raped. The reason being i was terrified of  this man getting off and finding me an possibly killing me. So, the second time I was terrified and i wasn't going to turn him in but i had a voice of reasoning on my side and convinced  me it was the right thing to do. Don't get me wrong i knew it was the right thing to do but look @ it like this i had a lot to lose this time but I had to think of other people besides myself. Like for instants my daughter i want her to know that the person that she looks up to is strong and has a voice and not willing to let someone defeat her. An, for the other ladies that might come in contact with this predator. I didn't want that to happen to them i was lucky to get a way the next person might not be so lucky. So, had to swallow my pride and give my fear a kick in the you know what and told my story. It was super hard having to sit in front of 20 strangers and relive the ordeal over again. GOD has plan for everything. So, I say this morning look in the mirror and tell your aggressor I NO LONGER FEAR YOU, FOR FEARING YOU IS MY WEAKNESS AND YOU SHALL NEVER, EVER WEAKEN OR SILENCE ME AGAIN. I HAVE VICTORY TODAY AND TOMORROW. WHAT DO YOU HAVE!

ANNOUNCEMENT

I WANT TO APOLOGIZE TO ANYONE WHOM I OFFEND. MY BLOG IS NOT TO GET YOU TELL YOUR STORY PUBLICLY, BUT IF YOU WANT TO AND YOUR COMFORTABLE WITH IT THAT'S FINE I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH THAT. MY BLOG IS HERE TO GET YOUR OPINION, SUGGESTIONS, COMMENTS ABOUT CERTAIN TOPICS. SO HAVE AT IT I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM ALL OF YOU. I AM HERE TO BRING AWARENESS TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, RAPE OR SEXUAL ASSAULT. ALSO TO HELP FIND AWAY FOR WOMEN AND CHILDREN TO GET THROUGH THIS ORDEAL THAT THEY HAVE GONE THROUGH. UNTIL NEXT TIME MY LOVES(:)

Hey, my loves I'm doing some research so i will be up dating you guys no later than tomorrow. I will be discussing some other topics as well. STAY BLESSED(:)

TODAY'S SCRIPTURE

Look Again “ ‘Go and look toward the sea,’ he told his servant. And he went up and looked. ‘There is nothing there,’ he said. Seven times Elijah said, ‘Go back.’ The seventh time the servant reported, ‘A cloud as small as a man’s hand is rising from the sea...” (1 Kings 18:43–44, NIV)

THE MONTHS FOR AWARENESS!

OCTOBER: IS THE MONTH FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
APRIL: IS THE MONTH FOR RAPE OR   SEXUAL ASSAULT

SUPPORT, SUPPORT, SUPPORT,SUPPORT, SUPPORT, SUPPORT, SUPPORT, SUPPORT, SUPPORT, SUPPORT ,SUPPORT, SUPPORT, SUPPORT I CAN'T STRESS IT ENOUGH!!!!

Today's Scripture (Stay Blessed My Loves)

Say “Yes” to His Yes! “For all the promises of God in Him are Yes, and in Him Amen, to the glory of God through us.” (2 Corinthians 1:20, NKJV)

Topic 1: Should You Feel Ashamed(:)

In my opinion you should never feel ashamed about anything. It's not your fault not in the least bit.  It wasn't  something you did wrong, even though the person who is or has abused you makes you feel that way. I've been on both sides of the fence. I was the aggressor back in 2010 something I'm not proud of  but it made me step back and take a look @ my life and where i was going because jail wasn't an option for me. The jumpsuits and stripes just aren't where it's @. My mission is to help everyone I can from the victim to the aggressor. I've been through a lot I look @ my pain as my blessing. So, yes I did feel ashamed @ first but once you start to find yourself and love yourself for who you are the pain and guilt goes away.WELL UNTIL NEXT TIME MY LOVES SIGNING OFF!

SUNDRA(:)

My Journey Through My Pain: My Story

Hmm.... Well, as you may know my name is Sundra. I grew up in an abusive home. My dad use to beat my mom and my oldest brother. He even tried to kill them, thank GOD he never succeeded. I grew up with a lot of anger and my anger didn't really surface until my 20's. During my younger years' i stayed pretty much reserved. I had few friends and i do mean few.  I've been raped twice; the first time i was nineteen (19) by my ex boyfriend's best friend. My ex boyfriend didn't believe me when i told him so that was the end of that relationship. Second time: I tried the dating services on the web something i will never do again. I think they should do a full background check on the people that sign up for there services. I know it's easy for people to lie when using these services. Well, guys this is just a brief inside look into my world, and my pain. Signing Off Until Next Time My Loves 

Thanks,

Sundra:) :)

This is just the beginning for something knew and the ending of something old

Hello, everyone my name is Sundra Ickom. I'm in the process of starting a Non-Profit Organization, for women and children. The name of the organization is Rehabilitating Women and Children Dealing with Domestic Violence and Rape. I would love to get everyone's input on the topics that will be post. This is a place where you can feel completely comfortable to talk about anything in which that bothers you. I will try my best to respond to everyone in a timely manner. I'm here to listen, give advice and to help in anyway possible.

P.S. I'm looking forward to chatting with everyone.

Thank you,

Sundra Ickom